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One of my favorite candles- Mrs. Meyer’s Clean Day Lavender.

One of my favorite candles- Mrs. Meyer’s Clean Day Lavender.

Candles

May 05, 2021 by Virginia Ruth

On one of the local radio stations, the host shared an inspirational sermon that she had heard about candles: candles provide light, heat and scent, but in order to do any of those functions they need to be lit and to intentionally burn. The host went on to say that sometimes we might be experiencing a situation that “burns”. It might hurt or feel uncomfortable but that process is sometimes necessary if we are to be useful for others.

I have noticed that some candles burn clean while others seem to leave burnt parts of the wick in the wax which once cooled, becomes a dark blot in the candle. It is only in burning the candle and melting the top layer of wax can that the “bad” spot can be removed and the candle appear “clean”. It becomes a cleansing burn.

There are many analogies in spiritual writings about burning the dross or the refiner’s fire. The idea is that fire helps eliminate “bad stuff” and enhances the “good stuff”. In the Hebrew Bible (Malachi 2: 17- 3:6) there is an image of God coming to refine His people. God comes to judge, to correct injustice and to purify the people. The author is quick to remind that one needs not be afraid. The fire will not destroy. “A refiner's fire does not consume completely like the fire of an incinerator. A refiner's fire refines. It purifies. It melts down the bar of silver or gold.” (attributed to John Piper). When we recognize that sometimes the fire is not a bad thing, we can see the good that might come out of it or at least not fight the circumstance so much.

* From the Timken Museum Website: Novgorod School Tabletka, 15th Century Russian.

* From the Timken Museum Website: Novgorod School Tabletka, 15th Century Russian.

Any thoughts of burning make me think of the story of the three devout Israelites in the fiery furnace of Nebuchadnessar: Shadrach, Meshach, Abednego. (Daniel 3: 8-25) Perhaps you are familiar with the story: the three men refused to bow down and worship a golden idol of King Nebuchadnessar. A new law had been enacted to do just that and those who disobeyed were to be thrown into a fiery furnace. The three men refused to worship anything other than their true God and so are thrown into the furnace. As the story is told, the furnace was way too hot so that even the men who had bound the Israelites and threw them in the furnace, were immediately burned. There appeared to be no hope that the men would survive. Yet when they are still alive the next morning, they are immediately removed and it is noted that not even a hair was singed nor did they smell of smoke.

The beauty of that story is the miracle that occurs because of the faith of the three. They trusted that God would care for them and deliver them from the burning fiery furnace. But if not, they still wouldn’t bow down before the golden statue. King Nebuchadnessar watched the proceedings and noticed a fourth man unbound in the furnace. That “man” was God caring for them during the fiery time. God was in the situation with those three just like God is with us in our “heated” situations.

I think of situations that either I, family or friends have endured. Circumstances that at the time burned, hurt and singed us. In looking back, I can see how the burning was necessary- either what was left was pure and beautiful like refined gold or in the process of sharing the difficult experience, others received guidance, compassion, or encouragement much like the benefits of light, warmth and aroma from a burning candle. [Please note, I am not speaking about the difficulties of an abusive relationships. That type of “burning” just leaves a heap of ashes.]

What about you? What has been burning in your life? See anything good? Refiner’s fire? Has the burning been beneficial for others? A light, a fragrance or bit of warmth? An encouragement? A reminder of God always being present?

Don’t shy away from being “burned”- from problems or difficulties. You never know- you and your experience might be the candle or miracle for someone else.


  • From the Timken Museum website: “This time, the artist chose an Old Testament narrative from the Book of Daniel that is sometimes referred to as Four Men in the Fiery Furnace. It is another story of over-the-top cruel punishment and it also relates to the refusal to worship pagan deities. This time it is heat, not cold that characterizes the torture of the faithful. The Assyrian King, Nebuchadnezzar, has been provoked by his advisers to cast three just men--Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego--into a flaming pit because they will not renounce their Jewish faith. Specifically, they won’t kneel before the golden idol that is shown in the composition’s upper right. Instead of perishing in the intense flames, however, the men are seen dancing with a fourth figure who miraculously appears in the furnace with them. Theologians debate whether this fourth presence should be interpreted as an angel, or the son of God: in this instance, the Russian artist treats the figure as an angel. The feast day of Daniel and the so-called Holy Youths is celebrated on December 17th.”

  • Timken Museum is located in San Diego, CA. They are offering docent led free virtual tours every Thursday in May. https://www.timkenmuseum.org/calendar/list/. The only thing I won’t know until the day- every tour starts at 11 am. They do not say, but I am assuming that means Pacific Time. FYI.

May 05, 2021 /Virginia Ruth
candle burning, refiner's fire, warmth, light, scent
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Traveling down a dark road? Keep walking towards the light…

Traveling down a dark road? Keep walking towards the light…

Darkest Before Dawn

February 26, 2020 by Virginia Ruth

I am sure you have heard the adage that it is always darkest before dawn. While I know the expression is true, it wasn’t until driving in the wee hours of the morning recently that it really struck home.

When I travel to our beloved beach house, I like to leave early in the morning in order to avoid heavy traffic as well as get to the house in the early afternoon. Then I feel as if I haven’t driven the entire day and can get a few things done on the “travel” day.

The thing is, when I leave the house in the predawn hours, the sky looks fairly light. It is only as I have driven about an hour and half that the sky seems to turn darker and seemingly ominous. It is then that I have the mental conversation, “Why did you have to leave so early?” I can feel my limbs and muscles wanting to stretch out in a comfy bed and go back to sleep. I have to remind myself of the destination and visualize the house, the beach and the peaceful feelings I get when I go there.

The darkened sky, landscape and highway seem like it will never end. But, before long, I will start to see a glimmer of light on the horizon and once that begins, the sky quickly becomes lighter and lighter until a full sunrise.

It is a new day.

What a wonderful metaphor for life: situations can turn difficult and dark but they do not stay that way- new beginnings can come out of those situations. The light of a new day will come.

Recently our family is experiencing an emotional journey like this: our last remaining parent (my husband’s mom) has been steadily declining with her health, recently hospitalized and now is in the process of rehab with an eminent change in her living situation. While we know the ultimate end of her destination (that which will bring her peace and the ultimate new home) it seems as if we are in the dark hours of the soul for her. A hard time for all involved. While we are in it, it seems as if the sky has become darker and darker. Yet, we tentatively hold on: light that will be dawning.

What about you? Are you going through a dark time? Does the absence of light envelop you? Does it appear that there isn’t any light at the end of the road? Yet can you visualize that light? Where you are headed? Can that glimmer of hope keep you going?

I have found that in these dark times of my soul, I repeat over and over again, “Thy will be done.” I do not know for what to pray at this time (Mom’s complete healing? Spared from any more pain and distress through a quick death? Strength and patience for us?) but I do know that God is sovereign. He is in control. His ways are not our ways. And that when I do not know how to pray, the Holy Spirit intercedes for me. I have to just let go of all my feelings, emotions, and thoughts to God through prayer and let Him work.

So, hang in there. There is light that is just around the corner. It may be a glimmering ray, but a new day is coming none the less.


P.S. Thank you regular readers for being patient for this late posting. As I am sure many of you have experienced, when you have a loved one in the hospital or any health setting it is very hard to get any work done. Even if you have your laptop with you (as I did), there are constant interruptions to seemingly long days of waiting (the “hurry up and wait” phenomena).



February 26, 2020 /Virginia Ruth
perseverance, darkness of soul, light, new day
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